This rite was written by Potia as the Parting
Ceremony for Insa Thierling - 27 July 2001
I wrote this rite of passing for Insa after talking
with her partner Stewart about what he wanted. I used other rites of passing
for inspiration, both from books and from others rites that I knew had taken
place, including rites by Bobcat and Philip Carr-Gomm. Stewart had the opportunity
to make any changes he felt were needed so in that sense he was a co-author.
It was an honour and a privilege to write and lead this ritual but it is
also one of the hardest things I have done.
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Herald: On behalf of Stewart and his and
Insa’s family I would like to welcome you all here today and thank
you for coming. Insa requested that as much as possible of her parting ceremony
be done outside as that is where she felt her spirit would be. In respect
of her wishes would you all please gather outside in a circle and the ceremony
will begin.
All form a circle outside.
Herald: Let us begin by giving peace.
North: May there be peace in the North.
East: May there be peace in the East.
South: May there be peace in the South.
West: May there be peace in the West.
All: May there be peace throughout the world.
Herald: Let the four directions be honoured that power
and radiance may enter our circle for the good of all beings.
North: With the blessing of the Great
Bear of the starry heavens and the deep fruitful earth, we call upon the
powers of the North.
East: With the blessing of the Hawk of Dawn soaring in
the pure clear air, we call upon the powers of the East.
South: With the blessing of the Great Stag in the heat
of the chase and the inner fire of the sun, we call upon the powers of the
South.
West: With the blessing of the Salmon of Wisdom who dwells
within the sacred waters of the pool, we call upon the powers of the West.
North: Let honour be given to the Spirit
that brings us here today.
East: Let honour be given to our ancestors without whom
we would not be standing here.
South: Let honour be given to the Spirit of this Place.
May we all be richer for having come here.
Herald: Insa fought courageously against
an overwhelming cancer - I now ask Rowena to speak to us.
THE DOLPHIN (Rowena Love)
Cancer's a queer fish:
anaemic amoeba endlessly mutating;
puffer-fish growths bloated with poison;
or shoals of cells
that prowl like piranhas
stripping my health in their feeding frenzy.
But attitude can attack back,
till I'm the dolphin swimming free
from this sea
of sickness.
I'll trawl my system,
catching cancers and fears,
netting them to wriggle and squirm:
powerless.
I'm the dolphin swimming free.
Modern medicine may have me filleted,
canned and processed,
pumped full of additives -
but the rest is up to me...
I'm the dolphin swimming free.
Dread might dorsal my spine,
tears flood my face with brine
but I... CAN... DO... THIS...
I am the dolphin swimming free.
Herald: Grant unto us, I ask, the power
of the spirit to bring brilliance of the eternal splendour to one who has
now entered the invisible. Wherever she may be, and on whatever plane, she
may now pursue her ideal, let her be blessed with a divine rest and an utter
cessation from strife.
We stand at a gateway now, a gateway that each of us must
step through at some time in our lives. Insa has stepped through this gateway
already. Her soul is immersed in the shining light that is the mother and
father of us all. The sadness and pain that we feel now is in our knowledge
and our experience of the fact that we ourselves cannot yet cross that threshold
to be with her until our time has come.
Herald: Insa loved life - all aspects
of it - especially her work. It combined her love of books with her love
of people. I will now ask Eleanor, Grainne & Natasha to speak to us.
IF I SHOULD GO BEFORE YOU (Joyce Grenfel)
If I should go before you,
Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone,
Nor when I'm gone speak in a Sunday voice,
But be the usual selves I have known,
Weep if you must,
Parting is hell,
But life goes on,
So sing as well.
Herald: Physical death is for the person
experiencing it, a birth, a freeing of the self from the limitations of
the body so that the soul can grow and learn and move in a brighter world.
Insa is in this brighter world now and it is time for us to give thanks
for her time on earth, for the joy, laughter, love and wisdom which she
experienced and which she gave.
Herald : Insa will be most missed by Stewart
and her family - I would like to ask them now to talk to us.
ANCIENT SPIRIT (Insa Thierling, May 2001)
In memory of Chris Turner & Insa Thierling
I am on the wing of the falcon,
I am in the rustling of the leaves,
I am in the crackling of the fire,
I am in the rays of the sun,
I am in the whispering of the streamlet,
I am in the splashing of the sea,
I am in the hum of the stones,
I am in the heartbeat of Gaia,
I am in the air,
I am in the fire,
I am in the water,
I am in the earth,
I am spirit,
I am,
Watch and listen.
Herald: Let us have a moment of silence
in which we each, in our own way, give thanks to Insa for all that she gave
us.
Herald: Let us join hands and say together
the prayer which unites all.
All: We swear by peace and love to stand
Heart to heart and hand in hand.
Mark, O Spirit, and hear us now
Confirming this our sacred vow.
(repeat twice more)
Herald: Let us join together singing Awens.
The word Awen means "flowing spirit" or "inspiration"
and Insa was, is and will be, an inspiration to many.
All: Awen, Awen, Awen
North: Let all be thanked and honour given
to those who have made this gathering possible.
East: Let us carry the Spirit of our Ancestors out with
us and continue to give them honour.
South: Let thanks be given to the Spirit of this Place.
North: May the lands of Earth, her forests, rivers, seas
and all creatures upon her be preserved and protected.
East: May the World be filled with Peace and Light
South: May the World be filled with Radiance, Joy and Harmony.
West: May Love pervade all those who seek to serve. May
our souls be united thereby.
Herald: In silence now as we move back
inside we send Insa our own blessings for a safe and joyous life in the
Other World - filled with peace and clarity and love.
All enter the crematorium for the final stage.
Herald: As the sun rises in the East and
sets in the West, so too are each of us born and so too do each of us die.
But as the Sun returns anew each day, so too do we return to earth, refreshed
and renewed. Now, Insa, go safely, go well, go surely. Our hearts are with
you. And you remain in our hearts.
